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I’m sure you all saw the article tilted 10 Struggles of Being Not Fat, but Not Skinny Either that was circling around Facebook and all around social media. I had shared this and a blogger whom I has inspired me to just keep going at my dreams Karissa from Karissa & Company. And also Stevie from Colorful Commotion had posted an amazing take on it.
I started my blog to discuss my weight loss journey. However, I realized I actually wanted to blog about weight loss AND my lifestyle. So now I have decided to take my blogging by the horns. Let’s get on this “Whole Body Image” for women and what women endure within their own mind or from what other people say to them.
I related to this post for many different reasons:
1. because I’m not fat fat
2. I’m not skinny (duh)
3. I’m very self conscious
4. I did/do ALOT from that list!
As soon as I started reading the list, all I could think was that I could’ve WROTE the damn thing!
Not all of them are “me” so I’m just going to go over the numbers that are all me.
2. Eating with people you’re not close with. Oh good grief, this one is definitely me. Even when I go out with my family I see what everyone else is getting; making sure what I am eating is similar to what they are eating –even on my first date with le boyfriend! I watched what I ate, made sure I didn’t eat fast, and ordered simple sushi (because anything TOO much could make me look like I am a heffa). Now? HA! I eat whatever I want. But, alas, when with people I’m not close with, I order something equal to the or plate or smaller.
3. Choosing an outfit to wear out on a weekend night. Le boyfriend said this was me to the “T”, and I have to agree. When we had our first date? I made sure I had 3 girlfriends check my outfit, took plenty of different angled pictures in said outfit, with different shoes, and different hairstyles. Even now if we go out somewhere fancy, I make sure I know exactly how I’ll look in the outfit and always do the high angle picture.
10. Explaining to people that you’re staying in because you… just wanna lose 3 pounds. This is probably the one that’s most me. Now obviously I DO go out with le boyfriend, his friends, my girlfriends, etc., regularly. But when in doubt, I stay home, eat the right foods, work out, skip the happy hour (and my delicious Malibu Bay Breezes
), bar foods, and everything else.
The head game that plagues all women… is just that! A HEAD game. It’s in our heads,
it doesn’t truly exist. But what if it does? What if the people that are in your life are that cruel? What than? My advice is to get rid of them, ignore them — whatever works for you. I ignore anyone that tries to down play the accomplishments I’ve made, or make my weight loss seem so little. It’s not. I’ve struggled with weight loss/gain my entire life. I’ll go on about that another day seeing that this post has already become a novel.
There was a point to this post,which was just me getting out everything that is on my mind as a “not fat, not skinny” fluffy girl.
Oh girl I so feel ya on this post. That number on the scale pretty much dictates how I feel about myself, which is sad because, in my opinion, I don't feel like I look like what I way. Ugh.
Also the whole eating with people thing – I feel most self-conscious about this with my parents. They are health fanatics and are super thin and fit…and well I am not. So I always get a stupid salad when I am with them.
I definitely wear a cover up at the beach and often will sweat it out rather than walk to the water without something covering me up!
I usually NEVER leave my chair if I take it off. If I do, I keep my head down while walking to the water, I sweat SO bad so I can't sit in my chair the whole time… BOO.
I feel the same way! I hate the scale, I wish it would just tell me I'm pretty… or something inspiring instead of a number that makes me want to bawl like a baby. See my dad is some what, but won't pick on me anymore… big discussion on that at dinner one night. I can't do salads…. unless it has chicken and a WHOLE lot of dressing (so bad). My mom lets me eat the cucumbers, croutons, and tomatoes from her salad… so it's a win win LOL I am glad I am not the only one who feels… Read more »
Love this, girl! You are so right! I am terribly guilty at "fat shaming" myself.
It's hard for me to look in the mirror and not say something negative…
but you are so right. I need to fall in love with my body no matter where I am at in my weight loss journey.
The depression that comes with hating your own image has been proven to hinder weight loss, anyways!
thanks for linking up! 🙂
This is great! I'm definitely going to have to go read that! Thanks for linking up today!
I do consider myself very fat, but I relate to all these things also. I have the same habits and thoughts- especially with eating with people I don't know well. I always think I will be judged for my food choice, but if you are thin and order a burger and fries it is still just as unhealthy. Body image is a tough thing and I think no matter your size or how much weight you lose, mentally you still will find imperfections. Hopefully in time we all can love ourselves and accept our own, unique beauty.